“In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.” – Ephesians 4:26-27 (NIV)
There’s an old saying that goes, “Some things just aren’t a hill worth dying on.” While in many cases this a wise saying because it encourages you not to argue about every little thing you disagree with, this saying can also sometimes be used as an excuse not to address your anger. I completely understand that confrontation can be difficult for some people. However, that doesn’t mean these people should not settle the anger they’re dealing with in a timely manner.
Paul makes it very clear in the book of Ephesians that we should handle our anger quickly, so quickly in fact that our anger shouldn’t continue into the following day. He says, “In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold,” (Ephesians 4:26-27).
If you let your anger smolder, it’s going to create problems. Passive-aggressive behavior typically bubbles up in relationships as a result of anger that remains unaddressed. If you refuse to deal with one issue and instead you choose to suppress it, that issue will just get compounded when the next issue comes up.
In another one of his New Testament writings, Paul talks about anger in its relation to love. He says, “[Love] is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs,” (1 Corinthians 13:5). In other words, Paul is saying that if we are going to love one another as Jesus commands us to, we are to settle our anger quickly instead of keeping a record of how someone has angered us in the past. Not allowing the sun to go down on your anger is one of the best ways you can love someone else. My prayer for you is that the next time you experience anger, you remember Paul’s words and address your anger quickly and lovingly