“Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.” (Proverbs 27:6)
A man once said, “A real friend is one who comes in when the whole world goes out.” Yes, there are times when we need the kind of friendship that is found in stability when our world becomes unstable. In every one of us, there will come multiple times when it seems the only solid tree to lean against, other than the Lord of All, is the one He planted many years ago in our life. A true friend does make it all the way through with us in our difficult, transitional seasons. Thank the Lord, if you have such a friend.
However, there is another aspect to friendship which is overlooked way too often. It’s the loving, risking, honest and transparent kind of friendship that many do not possess. Friends who know how to pick the right time, the right tone, and right words, can be some of the most invaluable assets in our lives when we need correcting. Of course, the truth is that we don’t want correcting or unwanted advice. That’s when we need it the most…when we don’t want it. A fair weather friend, one who is there in the good times only, will retreat to the nearest shade in moments like these. The real friend doesn’t mind going to the battlefield with us, confronting us, because they truly love us. I hope you have that kind of friend in your life and know how to discern the enemy who acts like they are supportive, only to get the inside track with you.
Where do trusted friends come from? First, they are gifts from God. Don’t ever throw away a friendship. They are just too valuable a commodity in this day. Second, they come from our personal experiences over time and they are proved the same way. The best friends are those who have remained by your side in both the lean and prosperous times in your life. Third, they come from the same place spiritually in your life.
True friendship has a common, silver thread…they believe what you believe and seek to live it daily in community with you. Do you see that friend in your mind’s eye right now? I bet you do. If so, pray for them now, thanking the Lord for what a gift they have been to you over all these years. Do something more: call them today. Let them know how much you love them for loving you well over all these years. They will be glad you did and so will you.