And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers and sisters. (Romans 8:28-29)
When Paul wrote these words, inspired by the Holy Spirit, he touched the heart of the human dilemma. We question why things happen to us and others. We wonder deep within our very beings, why, if God is a good God does He allow seemingly unfair things to happen to people we love, especially ourselves? We just don’t get it! By the way, it’s all right to not understand or even have a clue. When we don’t have answers for our questions, we need to be willing to allow God to help us either understand later or assist us to sort it all out in time; and that is not easy!
When we read these verses, we see clearly that the Lord uses all things, even the bad things in our experience, to be used for one purpose: shaping us to mirror His Son. Some people read this passage and want to discuss predestination only. To do so misses the point of the passage. Your life’s journey is to shape you into the picture of Christ. All of your past sorrows, present joys and future questions will go into the crucible of the special recipe God has for you.
One of the tools He uses in our lives to shape us is relationships, especially with those we love. When you are close to someone, they know you, the real you. They are intimately acquainted with your “hot buttons.” They know very well what sets you off and sets you soaring. They know your pain and your story…and you know theirs.
However, in the course of staying connected to them (because they are human), friction happens emotionally and we see our volatility openly displayed. They have become the very chisel to reveal to us what must be jettisoned in our character. God uses them over and over again. Thank the Lord today for how He is using the people you love to knock off edges in your life which do not look like Jesus! Don’t wait another moment to pray for their action…do it now!