Divorce and God’s Word
Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. (1 Peter 3:1-2)
As a pastor, I am often asked about the biblical grounds for divorce. There is only one reason for divorce! It is adultery, sexual immorality, and breaking that sacred bond of a relationship! Those are the only reasons for divorce! When you get married, you are committing yourself to one man, or one woman, for life! That is God's plan.
You might say, “What about abuse?” That is not in Scripture. If you are married to someone who is abusive, that person has mental and emotional issues. If you are married to someone who is abusive, and you are afraid for your life, separation is in order.
What about mental illness? When you get married, you are to be committed to them in sickness and in health. If you are getting out of the marriage, it says you are not waiting for God to solve the issue. As a spouse, you need to be committed to seeing that person get healthy. When you first married them, they surely appeared to be healthy. Now, they are not healthy, and they need you to remain committed to them until they get well.
Over the decades of being a pastor, I have heard people say, “God told me it's okay to divorce my wife or divorce my husband.” I will give you a spiritual phrase that fits here: “Hogwash!” You might say, “I don't like that.” I know you don't, but we are to be committed to living under submission. We must be committed to our spouse.
As a pastor, I am often asked about the biblical grounds for divorce. There is only one reason for divorce! It is adultery, sexual immorality, and breaking that sacred bond of a relationship! Those are the only reasons for divorce! When you get married, you are committing yourself to one man, or one woman, for life! That is God's plan.
You might say, “What about abuse?” That is not in Scripture. If you are married to someone who is abusive, that person has mental and emotional issues. If you are married to someone who is abusive, and you are afraid for your life, separation is in order.
What about mental illness? When you get married, you are to be committed to them in sickness and in health. If you are getting out of the marriage, it says you are not waiting for God to solve the issue. As a spouse, you need to be committed to seeing that person get healthy. When you first married them, they surely appeared to be healthy. Now, they are not healthy, and they need you to remain committed to them until they get well.
Over the decades of being a pastor, I have heard people say, “God told me it's okay to divorce my wife or divorce my husband.” I will give you a spiritual phrase that fits here: “Hogwash!” You might say, “I don't like that.” I know you don't, but we are to be committed to living under submission. We must be committed to our spouse.
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When they used to have weekly prayer requests, a woman wrote that she wanted God to honor
her divorce. It is sad that people think it is okay to marry thinking it is okay to divorce if things don't work out. I have never married so I stay devoted to my Lord